A woman says she doesn’t want to share her remaining college funds with her younger cousins, a decision that has upset several family members.
In a post on Reddit’s AITA (or AmITheA——), the 24-year-old wrote that she graduated from college two years ago “largely thanks” to college funding from her parents. “I feel incredibly lucky to have this. I worked hard to make the most of it by getting good grades and finishing on time,” she wrote.
She went on to explain that her younger cousin, who is 20 years old, “dropped out of university last year after failing some courses, but plans to go back.”
However, Reddit explained that her cousin “used up a significant portion of her college funds on her first try.”
“Recently, my uncle and aunt (her parents) came to me and asked if I could give them the rest of their college funds to help my cousin return home,” the woman wrote, adding that she still had scholarships left. He said that She was able to get a scholarship in her final year, so it was a “decent amount”.
However, the woman said, “I told her I didn’t feel comfortable doing that.”
The Redditor went on to explain that he is saving the remaining money for future expenses such as attending graduate school, “or maybe someday it will be used for a house.”
“I don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to give up on her because she didn’t finish school the first time,” she added.
“Right now my cousins and parents are mad at me,” she wrote. “My cousin said, ‘I need more,’ and that I was selfish for not helping her even though I paid for her entire education.”
“My uncle and aunt think they should give her the money because it’s ‘just there’ and don’t want her to take out a loan,” she added. “I know student loans are tough, but I worked hard to get my degree and saved that money for my future. I don’t think you should feel guilty about giving up.”
Several users shared their opinions on the matter, with all the top replies declaring she wasn’t wrong.
One commenter said, “That’s her and her parents’ responsibility, not yours. You have valid reasons for saving money, like going to grad school, so you shouldn’t be blamed for that.” No,” he wrote. “What do your parents say about this too???”
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The original poster wrote: “My parents are surprisingly neutral about this and say it’s my decision, but I can tell they feel sorry for my cousin.” “Still, I don’t think it’s my responsibility to resolve her situation.”
Meanwhile, another reply suggested ways in which additional discussion might be avoided. “If the account isn’t just in your name, make sure everyone else can see you said no. You don’t even have to say why,” one commenter wrote. “If you can, you should move that into your savings.”
